Isolation, health problems and financial issues may all affect older adults who get divorced. However, there are also steps they can take to prevent such issues. Couples in North Carolina who are facing what is sometimes called a “gray divorce” should try to exercise and avoid overeating or misusing alcohol in response to chronic stress.
The divorce rate for people 50 and older is twice as high as it was in 1990. Many of these ex-spouses are dealing with isolation, which can contribute to poor health. Depression and anxiety unfortunately keep people from leaving the home. Since women often manage social calendars in a relationship, men are more vulnerable to this isolation. However, financial issues tend to affect women more.
Experts have suggested several reasons for this rise in divorce. One is that people have higher expectations of being fulfilled by their marriages, and longer lifespans mean they may be more willing to leavey. After divorce, people may go on to pursue other interests or relationships, and many may be happier. Those who are struggling should try reaching out to others by joining clubs or organizations. If stress starts to mount, it’s important not to hesitate to see a doctor or counselor.
Negotiating a divorce settlement instead of opting for the more adversarial process of litigation could reduce some of the stress that accompanies divorce. This also allows couples more control over how their property will be divided. People who are worried about their finances may want to talk to an attorney about their options. For example, a lower-income spouse might get alimony. A portion of the retirement account or even the home, as long as upkeep is affordable, could also make the lower-earning spouse more financially secure.